What Men Can Do To End Sexual Violence

The dating scene is a confusing place. If no one is talking straight, how is anyone to know what the other person really wants? Not knowing what the other person wants sexually could result in pushing someone further than they want to go. This is sexual assault.
Here are some pointers to help guys prevent sexual assault:

  • Don't assume what your date wants. Always ask her. Her desire for affection may not be the same as a desire for intercourse.
  • Check out what her desires are. Wait for clear answers before you act. Women don't enjoy forced sex and they don't want to be persuaded.
  • Check out what levels of intimacy you both want. Sex is more enjoyable if you share rather than take. If you are unsure of what a woman wants because you think her body or clothes are saying one thing and her mouth is saying something else, SPEAK UP. Decide what both of you want. If she is unsure about having sex, back off and talk about it.
  • No means no. When you hear no, STOP. Don't argue with your date. If you don't accept her "NO" you are committing sexual assault. This is illegal.
  • A woman who turns you down is not necessarily rejecting you as a person. Her "no" is expressing her decision not to be part of a single act.
  • Be aware of your sexual desires. Do not let your desires control your behaviour. You are responsible for your behaviour regardless of your desires.

Tell your date your sexual desires honestly and as clearly as possible. Women have the right to set limits on sexual behaviour just as you do.